“She is always blogging and twittering and doing social media stuff – I wonder what her kids are doing when she’s doing all of that.”
Have you ever thought that about a mom who blogs? You might get this picture in your head of a mom who is typing away at her computer all day, while she shoos and shushes away her kids to the television.
But that is a far cry from my life…and from the life of many bloggers.
MOST of my day is spent playing in the sandbox, making crafts, baking cookies, pretending to sing into a spoon microphone, dancing in the kitchen, and reading illustrated books with character voices.
MOST of the time, I am holding a baby, playing hide-and-seek, and having picnics.
MOST days, we don’t watch any television at all.
The truth is that I blog in the in-between moments. I stay up really, really, REALLY late (too late probably…er…early). I sometimes check my my e-mail and tweet in quiet moments when both girls are playing happily together or when my baby is napping. I write when Tim is here…or when my mother-in-law comes over to spend time with the girls.
I’m not saying I have it all figured out (I don’t). It’s hard to balance everything. I am constantly torn.
But…I also want to be engaged in the local and global community. I want to write, wielding my words for good. I want to contribute to our family financially. I want my girls to see my ambition, my business savvy, my intellect – because I want them to be strong and skilled too.
I often tell my 3-year-old that I stay up extra late after she goes to bed because I want to change the world.
Are there some blogging moms out there who are on their computers all day long…so distracted by social media that they fail to meet their children’s deepest needs? Yes. But there are also moms who watch mindless television or scrub their houses obsessively or whittle their time away at the mall…that miss the hearts of the children. Technology is certainly not the culprit.
- I take more pictures.
- I prioritize my time more wisely.
- I’ve learned to say no to a lot of things that don’t matter and to say yes to my family.
- I feel more accountable because of my large audience so I spend more time working on my character and my heart.
Now that I think about it, the title of this post isn’t quite right. Social media hasn’t made me a better mother. That’s too passive. What I really mean is that I have intentionally used social media as a tool to improve my life, my family, and my community. There. That’s better.
WHAT ABOUT YOU? How has blogging, reading blogs, and/or using twitter/facebook improved your life?