Today is Mother’s Day and the thing that I’ve been thinking about all day is: how can I be a better mother? I know there are many things I could do to be better and more than I am, but one answer to that question keeps popping into my mind.
That answer is to say “just a minute” less and to engage my daughter with more fullness of my heart and mind on a regular basis.
Instead, I want to say “YES, let’s go blow bubbles, read books, take long walks and point out all the things that there are to see, spin in circles until we laugh so hard we collapse on the carpet. YES, let’s have fun just you-and-me…without a notepad or my laptop or a book to distract me.”
I want my little girl to know – by my actions – that she is so much more important than e-mails or blogs or work or twittering or laundry or any of the little tasks that fill my day. I want her to see that I am 100% focused on her – her little games, her words, her interests, her songs. I want to give her the gift of my attention.
I realize that I don’t have to be fully vested all day long and that other things need to be done, but I want to commit to being proactive about special “you-and-me-and-no-distractions” time.
Harvey Karp, author of The Happiest Toddler on the Block, actually recommends that parents use a timer for this purpose: to set up a few five-minute increments throughout the day as “special times” – times when you give your child what they crave the most – YOU. I like that approach because it is practical, it is specific, and it can easily be added into my day.
That’s my final thought as Mother’s Day closes. Less “just-a-minutes” and more “you-mean-more-to-me-than-this-ever-coulds.”
Thanks to everyone who participated in my Themed Weekend. Have a very Happy Mother’s Day!