At 16, I met a handsome boy. He was the soccer star, the captain of the track team, the student body president – he stole my heart with his ocean green eyes and his serious smile. Even in the early days, I knew that he was destined for greatness. He had something beyond intellect and good looks (although he had both of those as well) – he cared about people and he could communicate in powerful and effective ways. He worked harder and longer and with more passion than anyone I had ever met. He was brave, strong, courageous, daring, a risk taker. I knew he would give his life for me in an instant. That boy swept me off my feet. He pursued me with a forthrightness that caused me to catch my breath.
Today, I am happily married. I am wildly content. We have little moments, of course – where one of us might lose our patience or be a bit too selfish. But we are close, we are connected, we are committed.
I realize that we have much to learn that time and experience will teach us, but I thought I’d share four tips that have helped bring us to where we are today.
1. Communicate often and openly. We engage in conversation frequently – talking in straightforward terms about money, sex, careers, kids, goals, hopes and dreams, etc.
2. Have sex regularly. It’s a necessity for a good marriage.
3. Give generously (not expecting something in return). Not just material objects, but also time, energy, enthusiasm, and desire.
4. Propel your spouse into success. Intentionally encourage and challenge your spouse to pursue his/her dreams. Think about your spouse’s goals and work actively to help him/her reach them.
Finally, I would be remiss if I didn’t say that our relationship stands firmly on a solid foundation – which is Christ.
Thanks again for participating in this weekend’s “Themed Weekend: Married Moments.” What final marriage tips would YOU share?