At age one, our daughter's personality began shining through in vibrant and electrifying colors. She began walking - and she was already giggling and exploring and finding awe in simple wonders like blowing bubbles, singing songs, and going down slides at the park.
At the same time, we began to realize that soon enough we would need to institute boundaries and create some kind of discipline structure. Of course, as Elizabeth Pantley, author of The No-Cry Discipline Solution: Gentle Ways to Encourage Good Behavior Without Whining, Tantrums & Tears points out, "discipline is not about punishment...Parental discipline is about helping our children create a foundation of strong values, morals, and guidelines that they can use for a lifetime of self-discipline. The teaching of these principles occurs with nearly every interaction we have with our children."
I especially appreciated the fact that Pantley pointed out that we "discipline" our children, all day, every day - we are constantly teaching them how to behave by our own words and actions. We need to be more concerned about the messages that we are conveying and the people that we are than simply getting our children to comply with our wishes.
Pantley also highlights the fact that what we do now will effect our little ones as they grow: "When it comes to the typical misconduct that parents of teenagers struggle with, the seeds of those behaviors were planted way, way, way back - when the teen was a baby and toddler."
The book has a solid foundation, but it also offers plenty of practical tips to help parents with common issues - from baby talk to biting to bossiness to interrupting to tantrums. You'll find a list of potential solutions and things to try in this comprehensive manual.
Pantley's first two books - The No-Cry Sleep Solution and The No-Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers and Preschoolers - were both excellent. This one is equally helpful. I highly recommend this book for parents of children in the 12-month to 5-year category.
WIN IT! One mama will win "The No-Cry Discipline Solution: Gentle Ways to Encourage Good Behavior Without Whining, Tantrums & Tears" by Elizabeth Pantley. To enter, simply leave a comment on this post prior to Thursday, Mar. 20, at midnight (don't forget to follow the rules). The winner will be announced and contacted on Friday, March 21. * Winner must provide a U.S. mailing address.
* UPDATE * The winner is #54 arbrashears. Congratulations!