This session was small and thus rather intimate. The panelists and some of the attendees began by sharing their thoughts about and experiences with infertility.
One attendee said, “I didn’t know anyone who was going through infertility [when I was going through it] and I felt very lonely about it.”
Another attendee said, “I felt very alone. I didn’t know anyone else who was adopting a baby. It [blogging] helped me to get over all of the infertility and go on with the adoption.”
Yet another attendee said, “Blogging saved my life in so many ways.”
Lori said she writes about the topic because “I feel like I’ve come through the other side of it and I want to support other women.”
Pamela Tsigdinos expanded on the topic by saying, “It’s about more than just babies. It’s about being invisible. We also wanted to have a discussion today with women who conceived easily. We need people to be part of the discussion. Most people think infertility is self-inflicted.”
An attendee followed up with that statement saying, “The issue of invisibility seeps into every part of infertility. Blogging has been an act of lifting the veil of infertility.”
The discussion then turned to how to build bridges to help people understand infertility.
Melissa stated, “I don’t see a huge divide between those who are infertile or fertile. There’s a divide between those who are sensitive or insensitive.”
Pamela shared some of her own story with a bit of emotion, “Our next door neighbor was having a baby shower and I dropped off the gift early. Not because I wasn’t happy for my neighbor, but because I couldn’t deal with her friends. I didn’t think I could stand there without falling into a pile of tears.”
Another attendee related, “When you’re in the midst of it, you feel like you have no skin. You feel raw – like everything is poking and prodding at you. It just sucks – It just sucks to be there.”
Monica said, “Infertility blogs are really good because it helps you feel like you’re not alone. It’s not just you.”
Two representatives from March of Dimes jumped in to say that, “We’re trying to bridge the gap. Moms are moms are moms. March of Dimes is here to support all moms, no matter how they get there. We get the most comments on our blog posts that deal with preconception issues, struggling to get pregnant, etc.”
One attendee gave some final words of advice, “Everybody has their own process and their own journey. There is no right or wrong. Be kind to yourself. Support other people.”